I'm sure that some times they
are right, but often times it isn't the case. They are
paranoid. It can start out simply as asking questions. She
might want to know if you went straight home from work etc
etc.
Often times it can go to the extreme.
She asks why you smell like cigarette smoke. You try to
explain that a few of your friends from work went out to grab
a quick bite to eat after work. The ideas start to roll in
from there. She might think you went out to a bar with a
'lady friend'. She may start to count every penny you spend.
In her mind maybe she can find a money trail to your
mistress. She will ask where every cent has went. God forbid
you are a penny short, because in her mind that means you must
be spending it on some other women.
She may count all of the mileage on your car.
What she might not realize is that you may have some errands
that needed ran or you drop by a friends house unexpected for
a visit. Every mile you go over means you were traveling to
see your other woman. I could go on and on. There are many
things over the years that I have heard. At first it pisses
you off, but trust me, you will get used to it. Sometimes the
insecurity can be a result of a tragic event that might have
recently happened. A friend or relative might have passed
away, maybe finances are kind of tough, or maybe there is some
stress that you aren't aware of in her life. Sometimes
dealing with the kids and the household chores is a lot for a
person to handle.
I would watch how long this goes on for. If it has only
been going on for a short time, I would try to find the
cause. If it is something that you know already know of, like
a relatives passing, I wouldn't let it bother you. If she
gets out of hand for a long period of time, I would suggest to
her that she talks to a therapist. If this has been going on
since the first day you met her, I would also suggest to her
to get some help. Obsessive compulsive thoughts can be
treated with therapy and medication, or both. She may have a
legit medical problem. Many people suffer from such things in
various forms. There are even online support groups where she
can find other people with it that she can talk to. It will
help her greatly for her to find someone who understands what
she is going through and be able to talk to.
This can be very hard to handle
and may cause you to go utterly insane. If you truly love
her, I would suggest either trying to get her some help or
just putting up with it. If she is your special someone, then
it is worth it. On the other hand if this is just a girlfriend
who thinks you are cheating all the time and she nags you
about it.... I would suggest dumping the crazed bitch before
it eats you alive. There is no need for that. Let her ruin
someone else's life.
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