Body language
is very simple to understand but there is A LOT to take in
(as you can see from the length of this section) but once
you have learnt the basics, there will be no stopping you.
Her lips:
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Big smiles with upper
and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.
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Biting of the lips or
showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of
her front teeth.
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She wets her lips,
some women use only a single-lip lick, wetting the upper
or lower lip, while others run the tongue around the
entire lip area.
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She puts her
fingernail between her teeth.
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She protrudes her lips
and thrust her breasts forward.
Her
eyes:
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She gazes in your eyes
with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.
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She raises both
eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is
often combined with a smile and some eye contact.
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She winks at you while
talking to you or winks at you from a distance.
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While talking to you,
she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.
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Eyebrows raised and
then lowered, then a smile indicates interest in you.
Her hair:
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She pushes her fingers
through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more
of a stroking motion.
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She twirls her hair
around her fingers while she is looking at you.
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She is throwing her
hair back off her shoulders.
Her clothing:
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If she is wearing
clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice
they are getting perky and erect.
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The hem goes up to
expose a little more leg.
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She is fixing, patting
or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better.
While
she is seated:
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She moves in time to
the music, with her eyes on you.
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She starts sitting
straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
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She is sitting with
her legs open.
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She sits with her legs
crossed in a manner to reveal her thigh.
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Her legs are rubbing
against each other.
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Her legs are rubbing
against the leg of the table.
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Her crossed leg is
pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back
and forth towards you.
Her
hands:
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She exposes the palms
of her hand facing you.
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While talking to you,
she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while
holding out her other hand, palm up.
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She rubs her wrists up
and down.
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She sits with one hand
touching one of her breasts.
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She rubs her chin or
touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking
about you and her relating in some way:)
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She is fondling keys,
sliding hands up and down a glass, playing with toys or
other things on the table.
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She plays with her
jewellery, especially with stroking and pulling motions.
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She touches your arm,
shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you (in case
you already haven't started kino yourself, dumbass:).
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She is pretending to
look at her watch as you pass her.
Her
voice:
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She raises or lowers
the volume of her voice to match yours.
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She speeds up or slows
down her speaking to match yours.
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She laughs in unison
with you.
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In a crowd she speaks
only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention
on you.
Miscellaneous:
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She mirrors your body
language and body positions.
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Her skin tone becomes
red while being around you.
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She blows smoke
straight out from between her lips and toward you.
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She leans over and
speaks into her friend's ear, just like in junior high
school.
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She is standing with
her head cocked slightly at an angle, one foot behind
the other, hips slightly thrust forward.
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At a party - every
once in a while she seems to appear out of nowhere in
your vicinity and if you move to another spot, soon she
appears out of nowhere again, you catch her glancing in
your general direction (actually, glancing at YOU
dummy!:), she bumps into you… accidentally, touches you…
accidentally etc:)
When talking to a girl, these are
some of the more important signs to watch for:
Now I don't have to
explain what the answer "yes" to these questions means, do
I:)
All these signs usually tell you that the girl is
captivated by your charms. But before you get there,
chances are that her body language changes as the
discussion progresses. Make sure that you watch her
closely and as soon as you get a sign that should be an
indication that you are on the right track, keep going in
that direction. If the opposite happens, just change the
subject and see what happens."
Update. The really
gorgeous and beautiful girls however very seldom get
around to displaying the signs of interest described
above. They simply don't have to, as they are used to
getting some attention already long before that. With such
girls you have to be on a lookout for the initial and thus
much more subtle signs of interest. One example of this
would be a gorgeous girl simply looking at your face.
Obviously people tend to look at what or whom they like to
look at. But whereas an average girl first just looks at
your face and then progresses into the more overt signs of
interest described above, looking at your face from time
to time might be the only sign of interest you'll ever get
from the most beautiful of girls.
So if you think you're not getting any signs of interest
from beautiful girls - you are, but you just can't see
them well enough yet.
Update. Here are signs
of interest sent from across the room. Most are applicable
to both sexes. The sequence of the list approximates the
courtship sequence.
I'M INTERESTED
Sidelong glance(s)
Looks at you a few times
Holds your gaze briefly
Downcast eyes, then away
Posture changes to alert
Preens, adjusts hair, attire
Turns body toward you
Tilts head
Narrows eyes slightly
Smiles
Matches your posture
Eyes sparkle
Licks her lips
Thrusts breasts |
DON'T BOTHER ME
Never sneaks a peek
Fleeting eye contact
Looks away quickly
Looks away, eyes level
Posture unchanged
Does no preening
Turns body away
Head remains vertical
Eyes remain normal
Neutral, polite face
Posture unchanged
Normal or dull eyes
Keeps mouth closed
Sags to de-emphasize breasts |
In Summary. Frequency of eye contact,
the more the better. Amount of time she, or he, holds your
gaze, the longer the better. How she breaks off eye
contact, down before away is great! Shine of the eyes, the
brighter the better. Direction of body, toward you, good,
away, bad. Overall posture, erect and alert are good. Tilt
of head, vertical is bad, increased tilt is great. Where
the drink is held, high in front as a barrier, that's bad.
Hand activity, clenched, squeezing or pinching is bad,
open, caressing or stroking is great.
Most of us are slightly afraid as well as somewhat excited
in settings where social interaction is expected and
required. So, most people do not sit or stand in an open
posture. But, during courtship, the more open the other
person's posture is, the more open that person is to you
and your advances. And, the more open you are, the more
likely the other person is to open up to you. First
Conversation Signals. Men, pay attention to all the ways
she communicates during the first few minutes as you talk
with her.
KEEP TALKING
Alert, energetic
Pupils dilated
Gradually opens posture
Lowers drink
Touches self gently
Caresses objects
Crosses and uncrosses legs
Flashes of palm
Crossed legs steady
Dangles shoe on toe
Hands never touch face
Touches you any reason
Feet firmly on floor
Loosens anything
Leans forward
Steady hands, feet |
MOVE ON
Tense, restless
Normal or small pupils
Posture remains closed
Keeps drink high
Grips or pinches self
Squeezes, taps objects
Legs remain crossed
Back of hand gestures
Swings crossed legs
Keeps shoe on
Touches face
Never touches you
Feet on edges or toes
Tightens anything
Leans away
Tapping, drumming |
In social settings, most of us start
out in a closed, defensive posture because we're a bit
apprehensive. A closed posture feels safe. When the person
you are talking with shifts to a more open posture, it
signifies trust and comfort. That person is, literally,
opening up to you and what you have to offer.
It takes courage to open up to the
other person. If you go first, she, or he, will usually
follow your move from closed to slightly more open. Open
up in, slow, gradual shifts of posture.
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